UnPower Communication Phrase #2 for you to STOP…

Albert Einstein and Benjamin Franklin turn over in their graves whenever this phrase is attributed to them.

Every day they must be spinning like a top.

“Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result, is the definition of insanity.”

The problems I have with this statement are many but I’ll bore you with just a couple:

  1. There is no accurate attribution of this phrase to those two gentleman anyone can find. How did they get associated with it?
  2. Insanity is a much more serious mental health affliction and deserves a proper diagnosis and it is disingenuous, at best, to use it in this manner. It devalues the issue of mental health as a serious affliction.
  3. It is not 100% true. It is not true 100% of the time in all contexts, just like its sister phrase I wrote about last time.

Personally, if I do something over and over again, I better expect a different result.

Isn’t that what learning and practice is ALL about.

If I practice the guitar and play the same chord progression over and over, shouldn’t I get better and expect a different result?

If not, why bother practicing at all?

Same with athletes and cooks.

Same with math students.

Stop throwing around this phrase as gospel and start thinking for yourself.

Question this and other similar phrases thrown out as universal truths the next time you hear one, then send it to me to add to my “UnPower Communication Series.”

Please, leave a comment.

This phrase, and it’s sister phrase you’ll read about next time, is now part of my “UnPower Communication Series.”

If you have any words or phrases you detest and believe are “UnPower Communication” I want to hear about them.

Email me at Skip@WorkplaceCommunicationExpert.com and I’ll write about them, if appropriate.

’til next time make it a great day & Communicate With Power!

Best Regards,

Skip

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This Phrase IS Just Plain Wrong, Stop Saying It…

Time for me to rant.

There are two phrases that drive me crazy and people have to stop saying them as if they’re gospel.

The first one is “if you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always got!”

It has a nice ring to it.

And, it is not accurate, in so many ways!

Will a car dealer in business since the 1980s selling cars the way he/she always sold cars, get what they always got in terms of sales?

NO!

The Internet has changed the car sales game!

I’m 54 years old.

If I “always eat and drink what I’ve always eaten and drunken, will I get what I always got” back in my 20s?

NO, I’d be a fat big!

These types of phrases, I have another coming up for you in a few days, are called “Universals,” or “Globalizations.”

It means they are phrased in a way that makes them true in all circumstances, 100% of the time.

The last 20 years has seen this phrase, and it’s sister I’ll rant about in a few days, come into our lexicon as universal truths.

They are not!

People recite these phrases as gospel trying to get other people to change their ways.

Try this, instead of blindly accepting universals and globalizations start questioning them.

Test them for accuracy across different contexts.

I’m not saying the statement isn’t true in many circumstances. It is.

Just not in every circumstance and especially in the circumstances they’re being used in.

This phrase, and it’s sister phrase you’ll read about next time, is now part of my “UnPower Communication Series.”

If you have any words or phrases you detest and believe are “UnPower Communication” I want to hear about them.

Email me at Skip@WorkplaceCommunicationExpert.com and I’ll write about them, if appropriate.

’til next time make it a great weekend & Communicate With Power!

Best Regards,

Skip

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“Maybe” Adds to Uncertainty To An Already Uncertain Workplace

Have you ever made a request of someone and they responded with a “maybe,” or a “may be?”

Such as, “I maybe can get there before the meeting starts.” Or, “I may be able to get that to you before your deadline.”

“Maybe” reeks with uncertainty.

“Maybe” provides wiggle room for someone who doesn’t want to hold themselves to a commitment.

This is “Unpower Communication.”

There will always be times when we’re going to be uncertain.

The world is an uncertain place.

There is much more uncertainty in the world than certainty.

Too many of us default to “maybe” when we could easily make a commitment.

Often we choose not to because we want that flexibility.

Most of the time we use ”maybe” as a qualifier because its better than saying, “that’s not a priority for me and I’m not going to help.”

This is much more truthful, but it puts us in a position of not fulfilling someone’s request, which, in the moment would make the person not like us.

Using “UnPower Communication” comes from low self-esteem.

Using “UnPower Communication” allows us to set the expectation bar low so we can step right over it.

We under-promise in hopes of delivering the minimum expectation.

What if you stepped up and spoke the truth when you can’t commit, letting the other person know upfront they can’t count on you, instead of having them wait and hope?

What if you stepped up and committed to something and held yourself accountable to fulfilling that promise.

Making promises you can’t keep is not a good way to operate, and offering uncertainty without a commitment by using the  “UnPower Communication” of a “maybe” is just as bad.

Please, leave a comment.

One more thought, after reviewing last year’s Power Word Series I decided to re-release it in a year long weekly series call 52 Power Words. You can subscribe for free at http://www.52PowerWords.com.

“Maybe” is “UnPower Communication” #4 in this new series. If you have any words you think belong in my UnPower Communication Series email me at Skip@WorkplaceCommunicationExpert.com and I’ll write about them, if appropriate.

’til next time make it a great weekend & “Communicate With Power!”

Best Regards,

Skip

P.S. To have 52 Power Words sent to you weekly for the next year, go to http://www.52PowerWords.com  to subscribe today!

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