Never Thought I Could Do This (it’s all about “Level 1 Leadership Communication”)

SkipGuitarCalgaryStageA phone conversation last fall led to a huge, unexpected breakthrough for me.

It came from the emcee of a large event at which I was speaking.

She called calling to get information about me for her introduction and a little humorous post keynote banter.

Towards the end of our conversation she asked, “Skip, what is your secret talent?”

I let out a nervous laugh and replied, “I have no secret talent, my older brother got all the talent in my family.”

I proceeded to tell about how my infatuation with rock and roll superstar Bruce Springsteen led me to start guitar lessons six years ago.

To which she suggested, “so you can play and sing a song for us.”

“No, I couldn’t do that, it would cause mass evacuation of the venue,” I said.

“You could just strum a few chords, couldn’t you?”

I agreed to that.

Deep down I knew strumming a few chords wasn’t going to be enough.

I hung up the phone thinking, “what did I just get myself into?”

Immediately, I sent a text that read, “HELP!” to my guitar instructor, with whom I had not had a lesson in more than 15 months.

For the next six weeks we rehearsed the song closest to being ready for “prime time.”

Six weeks later, in front of an audience of 800, I delivered a 50-minute keynote address.

Despite the audience size I was completely comfortable doing that.

Not so much with the guitar and singing.

But, there I was, with a guitar wrapped around my neck telling the story about how I had come to put myself in this precarious position and being totally uncomfortable in that moment.

It was the most intense “comfort zone busting” experience I’ve had in a very, very long time.

When it was all over, I was energized and excited having done something in front of 800 people my wife thought I was crazy to do. (to view my performance, go here)

I felt this way despite nerves taking me seriously off key to open the song. Plus, losing my place glancing down at the lyrics in the monitor I didn’t need.

I am now working on refining that song and incorporating four others to prepare for performing at an open mic night somewhere locally.

Our comfort zones hold us back in ways we don’t even realize.

Shoulda, coulda, woulda is the lament of losers. It’s all about our Level 1 Leadership Communication (aka “self-communication).

What comfort zone do you need to bust through in 2015?

What comfort zones are you committed to busting through in 2015?

Leave a comment and commitment below.

’til next time, Communicate with Power!

skip weisman, transforming leadership and workplace communication to deliver champion level results

 

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How “Mindset of Abundance” Has Gotten Me Through Some Tough Times

The blog article on Monday on the topic of a “mindset of abundance” received more comments than any in a long time. If you haven’t read it yet, go here.

I’m pleased so many people found value in the article.

If it weren’t for a mindset of abundance I would not be writing this because I would be out of business.

When I started full-time it was 3 weeks after the terrorist attacks on 9/11/01 and I was operating just 65 miles north of Ground Zero in New York City.

But, there was no turning back as I told my former employer I would be leaving on September 30th.

That first year and beyond was a struggle.

Despite the fact I had a significant local business relationships from my previous career on which to build, the scarcity mindset of the times kept people from investing in their businesses and themselves.

Every night I would give my wife a recap of my business building activities and it could have become demoralizing and depressing.

My wife was a patient soul back then.

If not for her I could have been homeless. She had a stable job with excellent salary and benefits.

Each night she would try to console me by saying things like…

“Times are tough. You shouldn’t expect too much right now, budgets are tight and people just aren’t going to spend money.”

Lucky for me I had spent the prior two years building my abundant mindset muscle, having attended Anthony Robbins workshops every 3-4 months.

I would always respond, “thanks, hon, that may be true to an extent and I can’t buy into that. I know there are people out there who want to improve themselves, their companies and their people. I just need to work harder to find those that are.”

“Plus, I have to get better explaining my value so that it connects with their needs.”

I gradually turned things around.

Then, 5 years later the financial crisis meltdown of 2007-08 struck, and again the abundant mindset got me through.

How, specifically has a mindset of abundance made a difference in your life? Leave a comment below to keep this conversation going.

’til next time, Communicate with Power!

skip weisman, transforming leadership and workplace communication to deliver champion level results

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New Year, New Mindset of Abundance Will Make the Difference!

Happy New Year!

Over the holidays, like you, I was engaged in a number of interesting conversations.

My wife, Anne, brought up a topic I never thought I’d hear out of her mouth.

It came to her while listening to one of the podcasts she’s been listening to as she walks to work these days.

The topic was the concept of “abundance vs. scarcity.”

We agreed that having an abundant mindset was the singular most important frame of reference one could have for life.

The opposite, scarcity mindset, came with a lot of stress, cynicism and skepticism.

What is the difference between a mindset of abundance and a mindset of scarcity?

There are some key differences.

People with an abundance mindset see:
•    Unlimited resources instead of scarce resources
•    Opportunities instead of threats
•    Collaboration instead of competition
•    Applicable similarities instead of irreconcilable differences
•    Possibilities for growth instead of fear of loss
•    The sum being of greater value than individual parts
•    Opportunity to build on others’ success instead of a zero-sum game
•    An internal locus of control vs. external controlling factors
•    Internal responsibility instead of external blame

When I was younger if someone I knew received an award or a bonus or secured a new client, I would resent it, and them.

The sad thing was I felt this way whether the individual was working with me in my company or on my team, or if they were a friend in an unrelated field or career.

How crazy is that?

I felt as if their success reflected negatively on me.

In reality, it was the level of results I was producing that determined the impression others had of me.

The only thing preventing me from getting similar accolades, awards, bonuses or a new client was my skills and ability.

I needed to take responsibility for that.

What about you?

What is your relationship with an abundance and scarcity mindset?

Make 2015 the year you shift to a 100% abundance mindset and it will be a great year!

All the best to you, your family and your company in 2015!

’til next time, make it a great week!

Best Regards,
skip weisman, transforming leadership and workplace communication to deliver champion level results

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